The Housewife

[via mezzoalto]

When I express my want to be a housewife I'm usually met with shock. The response is usually people thinking I'm lazy or I have low self-esteem, or that I'm greedy and need to be pampered by Daddy Warbucks. I'm often confused by peoples extreme hatred for the life of a housewife. Feminism is about having a choice, and if a woman chooses to stay at home I hardly consider that to be demeaning.

I've been in the work force for four years now, I know that's not a very long time. But, I know for me I'm not cut out for the work force. I don't have an aggressive enough of a personality to survive in a excessively competitive environment.

I love cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, grocery shopping, etc. That's not saying that I wouldn't do some freelance work on the side. I would like to take some classes in graphic design. I feel with graphic design I can work from home and still be successful. That way I have my own money and I don't have to rely solely on a man.

As a child I never had daydreams of being a doctor, lawyer, or professor. My daydreams always revolved around my husband coming home to a cooked meal and being grateful for it.

I think for a long time I was trying to live a life of a modern woman who didn't want a husband or family. And trying to be that always left me feeling stressed. I know that my place is not in the work force, but in the home.

I find that a lot of modern women find it belittling to be submissive to a man. Sadly, people view being submissive to being controlled. Being submissive to your husband is allowing him to do what he's meant to do, and that's to be a provider and protector. Demanding respect is not going to get a man anywhere, and I find a man who demands respect is of weak spirit. People will respect you if you're a respectable person. A woman is not going to submit herself to a man whom she does not respect or trust would responsible enough to head the household.

Ephesians 5:22-33

 ²² Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. ²³ For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. ²⁴ Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
 ²⁵ Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her ²⁶ to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, ²⁷ and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. ²⁸ In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. ²⁹ After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— ³⁰ for we are members of his body. ³¹ “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” ³² This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. ³³ However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.